Excerpt from The Diaries Of Debra Westlake
Have you ever had an unworthy adversary? A pathetic antagonist who strikes her jagged claws on you for no reason? Correction, this trouble-making bitch thinks she has a reason, but it isn’t valid; it’s just a feeble excuse for not admitting her own wrongdoings. One of my biggest pet peeves is when a self denying liar doesn’t acknowledge their own mistakes and failures. It goes up a notch when these insecure hacks refuse to take responsibility for anything they do. This crazy woman in particular blames others because she is not right within herself. You would think all women are born with compassion and nurturing qualities since they bestow the ability to bear children… while some women are considerate, some are just down-right poisonous—black plagues that feed on innocent kind-hearted souls with weak defense systems. I consider myself to be a compassionate person… maybe a bit too introverted at times but my heart is in the right place. It’s always been this way, even before my son was born. Having a child can only enhance your goodness and vice versa. I guess that’s why my mind is boggled that this relentless wretch, who drives around in her mini-van with kids in tote, still acts worse than the devil? There’s no excuse for this insanely inappropriate behavior and I will make sure she learns this. The following article by Audrey Marlene, “Taking Responsibility For Your Actions” sums up this incredulous thought pattern best.
“We all like to feel important and have others have a high opinion of us. Some more than others develop an over-inflated view of themselves. These tendencies act to wrap us in what many call “denial”, which creates a false perception of self and the inability to accept the truth about us. It then becomes painful to accept that mistakes are possible and when we make them the first reaction is to point the finger at someone else. We refuse to think objectively and accept any involvement for our actions. Taking responsibility can be a very painful thing to do. The inability to accept responsibility for our actions and behaviors is a result of insecurity.
The Consequences for NOT Taking Responsibility:
One of the negative consequences that follow is an exaggerated sense of self that makes it difficult to get along with others. You then run the risk of becoming involved in conflicting situations and becoming more critical of others. Because your perception of your importance is exaggerated, your expectation of others is unrealistic and you become impatient, intolerant, and demanding. With this attitude, you act as a repellent to others, finding it difficult to gain their cooperation. Your relationships can suffer and before long very few people would want to be around you.”
My sentiments exactly. My will to abolish this inhumane attitude scares me. Why do I feel so strongly about this? Who made me the Wyatt Earp of righting the wrong-doings of the highly inadequate?
New author interview on Monday!
Peace out fellow bloggers and readers
Xo – L.